I want to share something with you that I’ve been thinking about a LOT this week… which is the idea that force creates resistance.
So, what does that even mean?
Well, when we’ve got a goal that we’re working hard on, and we’re trying hard to get something done a certain way, and really ‘control’ the situation and control the outcome, it inevitably leads to feeling more stressed out, anxious, overwhelmed, and ultimately, i know for me… kind of dissatisfied.
In fact, sometimes it starts creating resentment inside me. And I start thinking, why am I even doing this if it makes me unhappy?
So when we’re unconsciously trying to force something… what happens is that it creates resistance within ourselves. Maybe you’ve experienced this yourself…
The resistance can show up in lots of different ways. It may be that your body starts talking to you and you start getting a pain somewhere, or you start getting this building sense of anxiety and you don’t know where it’s coming from, or you’re procrastinating a ton and you can’t figure out why. Or you’ve started binge eating peanut butter m&ms (no, that didn’t happen to me last night).
But when that resistance starts showing up, it’s a sure sign that there’s something not quite in alignment inside you.
Our deepest selves - that inner being inside us… is always in the flow of everything that is for our highest good. It’s that part of us that is so wise and calm and loving, the bigger picture of everything that’s going on.
Because the reality is, we CAN’t control everything. We can’t control other people’s actions.
The only thing we have control over, is how we are being inside ourselves.
So… here are two things that will turn that resistant energy around:
#1 - Connect with your inner being!
And this doesn’t have to be fancy or take a long time.
So as soon as you notice that resistance inside you, just stop. Slow down. Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. Get quiet. And try asking yourself… what do I need to know right now? Or… what’s the best next step for me to take right now - for my highest good? And relax and feel into what’s there.
You might be surprised what the answer is.
When you get in alignment with your inner being FIRST, the action you take will so much more inspired and natural, and probably more efficient too.
#2 - Learn to love the process!
When you’re constantly focused on what needs to get done and what the end goal is… you miss all the good stuff along the way! True joy and peace in life is a direct reflection of our capacity to enjoy the present moment. The ORDINARY moments.
And the truth is, if we haven’t built the muscle of appreciating the moments along the way, we’re not going to know how to truly appreciate what we have when we achieve our goals either.
So. I hope this has been helpful for you.
And I would to hear from you! Comment below and let me know what YOUR experience is with this topic what you do to go from forcing to being in flow.
Until next time, I’m sending you lots of love!